Brotherhood –
…and what it means to me.
I have been around for short time on this big spinning ball of crazy for what will be 40 in November. I know, I look good, it’s from all the laughter, or was that others laughing at me?? Anyway, there has always been one thing true, real, and loyal presence in my life, brotherhood.
I can trace this back to my first real group of friends, most know of them, but for the new people, there was the brother, Jake and Kyle, then Mike, and Tony. It was very rare to see one of us with out the other. We grew up together, experienced a lot of ups and downs, more ups thankfully. We survived my driving, skate trips, roadkill, a burnt car, home life, Boston creme pies, mountain dew, cheese nips, St. Albans, hardcore, ska, punk, and metal music and girls… Oh the girls… As life goes, I see and or talk to one of them once or twice a month. That brotherhood was the brotherhood that tests all after.
Then I moved on, naturally I guess, got married, had a baby, and my best friend’s first words were, does that mean your leaving the band? I knew in that moment that this brotherhood was on it’s way out. But, not a day goes by though, that I wouldn’t drop everything for them if they needed me. That’s a true brotherhood.
I have had the fortunate time to gain some great new friends, and some of these boys now men, are just the top of my little brothers got big on me. My bro Nick went from this little Jesus loving pipsqueak to a full fledge Christian leader in his community in LA, and I am as proud of him as any older brother can be. He is the epitome of what you’d want for your little brother, a better life than your own, and he is more of a man than most men I know.
Then there this guy Joe, oh man, what a happy accident this guy was. He is one of my closest friends, he is busier than any one person I know, and he is so giving of his time. It’s unreal, he’s that guy that will come to you after he worked 11 hours that day just to fix your car, or help you push crap out of the way. We have built his dream mud truck, and when I say we, I mean him. I held crap, ground rust away from the frame moved heavy stuff, and annoyed him with my questions. When we took the first run in Hanksville, I had tears in my eye. Thankfully I had a helmet on so he didn’t see me crying like a baby. That’s what brotherhood means to me.
Most see brotherhood as something built over time, and gained through trust, and respect. I feel this is true, as I am gaining a new brotherhood through my rc community. Greg, Rob, and Cory are forming something that just appeared out of thin air to be honest with you. Well it would look like that to most, but for me I was guided to it through a higher power thank you very much. As we head into ever adventure that feeling of togetherness is real, and awesome, and I can’t wait to continue this with them.
Which brings me to my last section of brotherhood. We have respect, loyalty, friendship, and a common purpose for brotherhoods, then there is this one thing I haven’t really had happen to me until just recently and that is; instant connection.
When I met John for the first time he greeted me unapologetically with a huge hug! He yelled out my IG name because he didn’t know my real name, or says “he forgot it” and wrapped me up in a bro hug, just as he did to Greg as well. We hung out with John and his brotherhood of guys, Anthony, Will, Francis, Mikey, and Tim all day and they made us feel like family right off.
Through out the day I’d check in with John, and he did the same. We instantly ripped on each other like we hung out for years. The bond was instant, and I had a familiar feeling come back to me that I haven’t had in a while, I shook it off as too many Redbulls.
As the day finished we all exchanged numbers and I told John to text me anytime, an he said what I always say, you’ll be sorry you said that. I laughed, as no one ever texts me. I’m like a chick on my phone, always on it talking, working, writing, or listening to music. To my shock, the very next day John texted me. We talked briefly, called each other an inappropriate name… It was over then. We haven’t stopped talking since. We hung out at our last comp Shred The Ledge. We were the last to go to bed, and the first to get up. 5am breakfast sandwiches, 4:45am burnouts, err attempts, deer sightings, bright ass light in my tent to wake me up, and bsing about life and future… Yes, this was it, this was my prayers answered. I finally had someone interested in me, and was willing to talk to me as much as I wanted to talk to them. I think our brotherhood was formed immediately, planned even, and I can say with certainty that we will be boys for a long time to come. The distance sucks, but that’s ok when you actually talk to someone everyday.
Sure, does it sound like a man crush?Maybe, but I don’t care. Take your best friend, rip them out of your life, and see how that feels. Friends were everything to me, and still are, as I enjoy being around people… Hahah jk, I hate all of you. Ok, hate is a strong word, I strongly dislike you all equally.
So be thankful for your friends, a brotherhood, and a group of people you are close too. They actually shape you, help you, and have your back more than most family in your life. That’s been my experience anyway.
Thanks for reading!
Trevor